Casual Sex is for the Shallow is your modern day mind condom. Protect yourself before engaging in casual sex, by knowing and understanding that as a woman, sex is as much physical as it is emotional. Women are often told about the physicalMoreCasual Sex is for the Shallow is your modern day mind condom. Protect yourself before engaging in casual sex, by knowing and understanding that as a woman, sex is as much physical as it is emotional.
Women are often told about the physical implications of sleeping around but very little emphasis is placed on the emotional ones. The emotional ramifications can be just as devastating as the physical ones.The title of my ebook is just as misleading as casual sex. Casual sex is an act that is devoid of emotion as well as commitment, in my book I call it the “instant coffee” that some women try to use to obtain a relationship or temporarily satisfy emotions of loneliness and incompleteness.
It is selfish, shallow, and superficial.First of all, what is sex? Sex is either the penis or the vagina. What is sexual intercourse? Sexual intercourse means penetration of the vagina by the penis. Intercourse is a communion, exchange of thoughts, or feelings, connection.
If penetration is defined as an exchange of thoughts, feelings, and connection, then can having intercourse with another person really be casual? I break down the term casual sex to its simplest meaning in my book to help women better understand what casual sex is as well as what it is not.I also discuss “Sexpectations,” or sexual expectations.
Expectations do not belong in casual sex. Sex is not the magical dance that turns a casual relationship into a committed one. The only expectation a woman should have is to make herself feel good. I talk about sex with your guy friend, or friends with benefits and why sleeping with them casually is not the best option for you.Sex as a bargaining tool is another subject I discuss in my book.
Using sex in exchange for love, power or anything intangible is not fair to you. He can physically have sex with you, but you can’t physically touch power, or love.Sex cannot guarantee your emotional well being, in my book I note that, Sex is not your cash cow for a steady dependable flow of emotions. Under this same topic I address the term pussy power. What is pussy power? Why is it misleading?Don’t be a ‘Babbling Brook’ is a small section in my book that helps women to filter what they say when they are casually dating someone and looking for a long term relationship. I go over the what, when, why and how not to’s, in regards to sharing your sexaul history with someone that you casually know.Why shouldn’t he get what you gave to everyone else without a commitment?Then I take a look at the “Shallow womans story”, this is the narrative told in Hollywood.
This is the side of casual sex that is easy to digest because it plays out like a movie, this shallow woman always has a happy ending. What does it mean to be shallow? Is being shallow a good thing? Is being able to disconnect from your emotions normal?Finally, I briefly tell my story and the reasons why I started engaging in casual sex. Because I was sexually abused as a child I was able to disconnect from my emotions which made sleeping around a lot easier.
Casual sex is about disconnecting, dissecting and dismembering sex, it is about the body parts not the person as whole. Casual sex was my gateway to escorting/ prostitution. Why do it for free if I can get paid to do it? After sleeping around for such a long time, sex lost its enjoyment, it was a job, a chore and the offer of money made it tolerable.I began to question my self-worth when I realized that I had lost count of all the men I had been with.
Who would want a woman that has slept around with so many people? I can say that I am blessed that I found someone who loves me in my entirety after I gave up the casual sex lifestyle. With this book I want to offer hope to women who are ,or were sleeping around, and are, or were escorting, there is love, and happiness for you.